At times being a SAHM is really tough. Saying it's hard to keep up with a household, a husband, preparing meals, being a good salon owner, cleaning up mountains of laundry and diapers.. is certainly an understatement. 
Some days you just feel like crying. Screaming. Pulling your hair out. Taking a vacation (a very long one)...
But at the end of the day....
I wouldn't have it any other way. God has blessed me with 2 children, a family and a home to call my own. These times are busy, and they are hard, at times very.... but I'm happy that I can realize how truly lucky I am.
It's all worth it.
Motherhood is awesome.
Awhhh Holly they are precious. You seem like a wonderful mother. <3
ReplyDeleteYou are such a positive person. It's inspiring to me! <3
ReplyDeleteAw!! :D
ReplyDeleteBoth of your kids look JUST like you. Needless to say, they're precious!
i hear you on the trials of a SAHM ! to top it off my husband is a railroader and is never home and if he is he is sleeping. there i times i want to run away to Canada and vanish..but then i look at my boys and know i am truely blessed.
ReplyDeleteI hear you! I only have the one babe so it's not so crazy, and there's one thing I would add to that list that some people might not think about...being a SAHM is sometimes BORING. And lonely. But, at the end of the day, it's completely and totally worth it.
ReplyDeletePs-Tes enfants sont trop cutes! :)
Awwww, Look at her cutie personality showing!!!! Soooo beautiful!!!! Such a beautiful family that you have, Miss Holly!
ReplyDeleteI LOVE the snuggling photos!
ReplyDeletewhat beautiful pictures!
ReplyDeleteshe looks SO much like you!! adorable pictures of your precious little ones. and i agree being a SAHM is definitely a rewarding yet tough job!
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aw you have such a beautiful family! your kids are adorable and i bet they are oh so grateful for you in their life! :) <3
ReplyDeletethis post is certainly an inspiration to me :)
ReplyDeleteaww this is such a sweet post! you have beautiful little ones.
ReplyDeleteperfectly said. lovely post. beautiful pics.
ReplyDeleteyup, those are good pictures
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on the baby, but there was really no need for a post like this. You come across incredibly smug. Why are you stay at home mother's so smug? Being a mother is not a unique experience -- anyone can raise a baby.
ReplyDeleteWhat you are doing is adding stress to the Earths capacity to sustain population growth. Approximately 6.6 billion humans now inhabit the Earth. The human population has grown nearly ten-fold over the past three centuries. The relationship of the humans species to our natural support systems and has greatly intensified our environmental impact.
If you really cared about the future, and desperately needed to have a second child, you should have adopted.
Write more posts about starting your own business. That is tremendously more inspiring than seeing pictures of your swollen belly and little life obstacles. Writing about motherhood is about as interesting as watching paint dry.
Write about University and education. Things that are more empowering for other women to hear.
I'm a trauma surgeon and I don't write about the fact that I save lives every single day, on top of caring for my family.
It's not difficult for most women to become pregnant and raise a child or two.... but very few make it to medical school.
What an uninspiring post.
agreed. xo.
ReplyDeleteWow. I can't even believe some people...
ReplyDeleteIt is not hard for *most* women to reproduce, but it is *VERY* hard to find a woman doing a good job of raising a family these days. Finding a loving, well-rounded family in this day and age is like looking for treasure in a garbage dump. I find your post inspiring, and quite honestly, if these weren't the things I was interested in, I wouldn't be visiting blogs like this. Your family is beautiful, Holly.
some people are just that rude, this is your blog you can post and share all the things you want...I cant believe that comment.
ReplyDeleteI dont want to have kids but that doesnt mean I think having kids is bad, I think you are a very lovely and creative girl....your kids are SO PRETTY and you have a rockstar family so dont worry....you rock!
Victoria.
I agree with Katie. Your blog helps us other "uninteresting" stay at home moms (or moms in general) remember that we aren't the only one's going through the rough times of motherhood and raising a child or two. You are doing a great job and please keep up with the blog the way YOU want it. Don't let people like "anonymous" bring you down. :]
ReplyDeleteThat's funny, the anonymous poster sounds infinitely more smug that she made it through med school.
ReplyDeleteThe internets is serious business.
being raised in a connected home is hard work, stay at home moms are not given as much credit as they should be..it's hard and as a single mom working full time in the Fashion Design Industry, i would give anything to be a stay at home or be my own boss to spend all that time with Zoe, she is worth that sacrifice! so KUDOS to you..thanks for the honesty, we need more reality in this world!
ReplyDeleteit's always great to hear how happy someone is with where they are in their lives. you have two beautiful little babies. i bet you are a wonderful mother to them.
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As a woman who HASN'T found it easy to "reproduce" (I had a miscarriage in January), reading posts like this make me excited for what I hopefully have to come! I can't wait for the days when I can proudly say that I'm a stay at home Mom.
ReplyDeleteAnd, as someone who has had cancer four times and has been in and out of the hospital most of her life, I can DEFINITELY say that almost ANYONE can be doctor... Nice people and those who lack tact alike.
Everyone has a purpose and there's no need to try and minimize where anyone, who is genuinely happy, is at in their life.
By the way, Holly, your kids are adorable and I think you're doing a swell job! I'd, personally like to see more posts like this!
<3
I think being a stay at home mom is a very inspiring job. Your baby is beautiful and don't listen to people that have nothing better than to find blogs and insult people's beautiful lives. Keep writing about being a stay at home mom. I want to read about it. :)
ReplyDeleteI couldn't disagree with the anonymous trauma surgeon more.
ReplyDeleteChoosing to have children is an intensely personal decision. It cannot and, more importantly, should not be reduced to a mere exercise in population control.
Anyone courageous enough to raise children is inspiring to me. To do so in an environment so filled with honesty and love is even more so.
"You come across incredibly smug."
ReplyDeleteNewsflash anonymous commenter- YOU are the smug one. How dare you come here, and hide behind an anonymous comment...tearing apart someone's heartfelt and beautiful post on THEIR blog. You are ridiculous. You call her smug, yet you are 110% condescending and rude.
I am sensing that because you took this post SO personally, and had to really make a point that ANYONE could be a Mom and ANYONE could do what she does, that you have an underlying insecurity. Either you are a shitty Mom (I'd imagine so, with a shining personality like yours), or you aren't able to be a Mom, which causes you to lash out and become defensive, WHEN NO ONE WAS ATTACKING YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE.
All caps is annoying. But I want you to read my words and understand that you are not welcome here. Holly's blog is a place for her, not a place to receive anonymous, rude judgment from someone who clearly hates their own life and has to talk themselves up as if someone was calling THEIR profession a lesser thing, even though she didn't mention anything outside of her own happiness.
I feel so bad for you.
You say that being a mother isn't a unique experience. Well guess what? Either is being an asshole. You're not special. You're an idiot. You're an idiot surgeon apparently, which is 110% worse. God forbid I ever have to have a doctor like you.
So now, kindly go away and troll someone else's blog- you are not welcome here.
You go, Danielle!
ReplyDeleteDear anonymous...I usually wouldn't even comment or give my two cents on someone elses blog but I must say as a nature lover myself I feel sad about your comment! The fact that you feel this way and so strongly about a topic isn't the problem, it's simply not your blog to decided the content and no one is forcing you to read it nor agree with her topics...we all have choices in life and sounds like yours are different then hers...not wrong just different...that's what life is about celebrating everyones differences! But insulting a person and actually saying they don't care about there future is just rude and unnecessary!! Wow..good luck to you & I hope you get through what ever it is that is causing you OBVIOUS pain!!
ReplyDeleteAnonymous posting takes guts! And smarts! I'm being sarcastic!
ReplyDeleteWow.
ReplyDeleteWhat is there to say that hasn't already been said?
People talk so much shit on the internet, and those that do, do it anonymously.
If I'm going to voice my opinion or talk shit about someone, I'm not going to hide behind the internet.
Motherhood is difficult regardless of how many children you have. Your nanny/babysitter probably spends more time with your kids than you do since you're this big shot trauma surgeon. Did YOU adopt any of your children? Probably the fuck not, so why preach to Holly?
Please.
My son turns 9 tomorrow. And I too recently opened my own business. And as proud as I am about getting to this point in my life, my greatest accomplishment, hands down, is having my son. He is growing up to be the most amazing/smart/compassionate person that will probably make more of an impact and difference in this world than you ever will.
Holly: fuck these haters. Go on with your bad self.
Wow. I just sat and read each and every comment. I love how anonymous readers find it very easy to be horribly disrespectful and downright cruel, when they are safe in their dark little hole of a life, not fearing any judgment at all. I don't give a shit if you're a trauma surgeon. You're clearly not a good person. I feel sorry for you. Oh by the way Holly- you rule.
ReplyDeleteI'm having a hard time understanding why she felt she needed to leave such a detailed comment on your blog at all. She could've just stopped reading it if she didn't agree.
ReplyDeleteWhat a ridiculous, ridiculous comment.
I couldn't agree more with everyone else's responses. It's amazing how incredibly stupid some people can be.
ReplyDeleteHolly, I applaud you for being a stay at home mom and being such an amazing person. There is absolutely nothing more inspiring that a mother who completely loves her children.
Sorry for the language, but this "anonymous commentor" is a dumbass and obviously extremely jealous of you.
On a more positive note, your two babies are absolutely adorable! Those pictures are so cute.
XOXO. m
Since when does a peron's chosen life path or profession qualify them as a better person than someone else? Why can't we just accept each others' life choices.
ReplyDeleteWell, Miss Anonymous... I am an ER nurse and might I say most doctors I've encountered (including yourself) are often the smug ones.
Since we're employing the power of titles here... In my chosen profession, as a registered nurse, I find myself caring for people and acting like a surrogate mother to my patients. The power to empathize and care for another human being (as a mother does) can never be underestimated in its necessity.
Learn to love yourself Miss Anonymous, and never forget you had a mother once and I'm sure her job wasn't easy raising you.
I just want to say that I am Holly's very proud Mom, and Grandmother to those two beautiful babies! I know that Holly will not be shaken by these rude comments because she is confident in who she is and that God gave her these precious gifts to raise. Obviously Anonymous is very bitter and does not have joy in her life and I feel sorry for her. My children and now my grandchildren bring so much love and joy into my life! I can't imagine that any amount of education could compare!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for the lovely comments, and compliments on the photos! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks also for the comments following the anonymous sour puss. I love my blog readers! You're the best.
To Anonymous: I'm sorry, but you shouldn't be wasting your time reading my blog. I don't aim to please everyone, especially people who don't appreciate raising children. I hope you can find some more inspiring blogs out there for you... and until you do, have fun making pathetic anonymous comments.
I wasn't trying to be smug, but if a person can be proud of one thing, I think it most certainly can be their family.
Your babies are beautiful. And you're not smug.
ReplyDeleteYou mess with one wolfette, you get the whole pack!
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To the anonymous coward who is a trauma "surgeon" but can't be bothered with basic grammar and spelling, I'd like to let you know that you're special, and you should continue to tell yourself that for the rest of your life. Because the odds are that nobody else ever will (at least not in the way you want them to). If you honestly feel the earth's population is such a huge issue then why are you working in the trauma unit and _saving_ lives every day? Shouldn't those people deserve to die if natural events in their life have brought them there? Now, with that basic hypocrisy pointed out I'll move on to Holly's actual post as you don't really deserve any more of anyone's time.
ReplyDeleteHolly, I absolute _loved_ the photos and can totally relate to how much has to be done. It's always very inspiring (in spite of what others may say) to see someone who is able to accomplish so much in so little time. The fact that you can work at all, let alone run an entire salon, while taking care of your family is absolutely amazing. I give you tons of kudos and wish you nothing but success, peaceful days, lots of sleep, and a happy loving family!
Keep up the good work!
-Steven
your kiddos are adorable, Holly :o) I hope I can be as cool a mom as you someday!
ReplyDeleteJust read the anon. commenter's post... wow. Arrogance rears its nasty head. Yes, anyone can have babies but there's more to being a mom than giving birth. Good parents are few and far between. Dear cowardly commenter, how dare you have the audacity to try to make someone feel bad and essentially crush someone who's living their dream? Why do you have to belittle that? Go flog a log.
ReplyDeleteAnyone can raise a baby??? Did i read correctly...does "ANONYMOUS" have kids...clearly not and if she does, I really feel sorry for them. There is nothing more challenging than raising a child (no one teaches us the challenges of motherhood & father hood, we have to do it alone, with NO EDUCATION or Medical Degrees) & there is nothing more rewarding than having there small arms wrap around you and cuddles and kisses. Its better than a bloody medical certificate hanging on the wall.
ReplyDeleteI would rather have my children's paintings hanging on my wall (which i do), and be a proud mama!
Holly your a beautiful, young and awesome mama and career woman, your 10 years younger than me, and I admire you! You go GIRL!
xxx
I agree with so many of the ladies already posting here, just read what they say and forget the other junk, we all know it isn't true and so should you :)
ReplyDeleteIm with India Daisy, you are such an inspiration, you are so young, and have succeeded in so many parts of your life, including motherhood and being an amazing mother, you are an inspiration.
I can't wait to become a mother myself, if I had it my way I would have started trying last year, but its not so easy for my partner and myself to have a child, we need a little help, but its ok, its going to happen and be amazing im sure, when the time comes!
keep smiling holly :)
xx
Hi Holly I read your blog and rarely comment and feel I have to on this occasion!
ReplyDeleteI'm in the UK (hence the time delay) and I am training to be a midwife. In the UK all pregnant women are cared for by midwives and not doctors (thank god!). Midwives are trained to care for the normal physiology of pregnancy and childbirth and postnatal care or women and their babies. As a midwife I see women from as little as 8 weeks into their pregnancy right through to a month after their birth. I consider it a privilege and an honour to meet with women at such an important time in their lives!
I see women at their best, their worst and I love every minute. I am so happy that you chose to say how hard motherhood can be because so many women are afraid to say that! It is hard, you should be so proud, you nursed your beautiful baby girl and you continue to nurture both of your gorgeous children - motherhood should be celebrated, not chastised!
To the anonymous commenter I'd like to say this: Motherhood is such a personal life choice, how can women be judged for this life choice? As a woman you should be ashamed of yourself for judging another woman: The planet has so many problems how can women who chose a family be the root of all evil? Most of the population problems are caused by men and corrupt governments not women choosing a family! If you are so 'disturbed' with the problems of the global population why don't you start to deal with the crisis at a much more intellectual level: being that you are so intelligent with you medical degree and all.... I feel the need to say that I find doctors so boring: and like watching paint dry! You have to remember you have a medical degree: it does not make you a superior being! Society may have you think that you are, but really you are just a human being like the rest of us!
I spent the whole day with a labouring mother yesterday and it was beautiful. She was so excited at the thought of being a mother, so afraid and so happy at the same time, I feel so defensive that she is wrong in your eyes, how could you be so cruel?
Why don't you attack the women who bring children into this world and then abuse them, or the dad's that leave their children and partners to fend for themselves! I do think you are jealous, a medical degree and a 'fancy' career is not comparable to a family, not by any stretch of the imagination. I cannot stand self importance, and sadly most doctors are full of just that! Get some people skills for goodness sake!
I would love to be a mum, I support women all day every day, I literally cannot wait - does that make me vapid and empty? I think making the choice to be a stay at home mum is amazing: I think anyone can have a career but not anyone can be a mum, it takes courage, and passion and far more creativity than being 'just' a doctor!
And it's damn funny how these people who excel in sprouting poop always so conveniently remain anonymous :)
ReplyDeletei just read every comment, and agree with what everyone had to say in response to anonymous. how arrogant of her. there was absolutely nothing about your post that made me feel like you were being smug, and all i could do was smile at your beautiful photos of your kiddos. it was not boring at all, especially to someone who really wants to be a mother but i scared. i know how hard of a job it is. i watch my best friend daily with her two littles one, and she is a stay at home mom, and i can honestly say she works harder than i do, and i own and run a blooming jewelry, clothing and photography company! i am constantly impressed and proud of her. i too feel sorry for this commenter, that has such an important profession saving lives, and then spending what little time she does have with her own children reading and commenting on blogs with such hatred. so sad. im sure your kids miss you, go play with them! and again, if you dont like what you see on someone's blog, just move on. no one is forcing you to read it! that is the nature of blogging, its our personal space that we choose to share and generally becomes little hubs of people interested in the same things you are, so if you are not interested go find the asshole hub!
ReplyDeleteanyway, holly, you are an amazing inspiration to so many women out there, so poo on her... she is just an unhappy soul. your new little one is precious. i never really comment on your blog, but i am always checking in and smiling! keep up the amazing job of raising these kiddos, it is the most important thing you will ever do in your life. if you want to change the world, go home and hug your family, that is what maya angelou says :)
dear "anon trauma surgeon",
ReplyDeletei think you might be the biggest waste of space on the internet. if you don't like this post, don't read it. and loooove that you're too scared to post who you are. but we know who you are. a loser with nothing better to do.
anyway, thanks for your post it gave me a good laugh this morning.
xoxo,
margot
and holly,
beautiful kiddos!
First: You have such a beautiful family! :)
ReplyDeleteI hate the idea that there's only one path for women that's valid- no matter if someone is saying that's staying at home or med school. This comment is thinly guised jealousy at its best.
You guys have an inspiring and happy life, and sometimes that'll drive people up the wall- but that's squarely about them and not you <3
Holly,
ReplyDeleteI have never met a more inspiring person than you. You are an excellent example of a mother, wife, and business owner. Being pregnant is no easy task. Becoming a parent is the most challenging thing that most people will ever do. It stretches you and demands that you are not selfish.
I love to watch your kids grow up, all the cute things Simon says (hehe..simon says!).
loves :)
Your kids are so adorable. I am not a mother yet but I do have two adorable nephews who make my heart burst. They are amazing little creatures and I can understand the love you feel as a mother. We all have opinions. Its our difference of opinions that make this world interesting but we dont need to share negative opinions with total disregard for anyone's feelings. It is really unnecessary to leave a comment on such a lovely blog trying to make the person feel really bad. Anonymous was out of line and it makes me really sad that we are so quick to hide behind the internet to make people feel awful. Your children are beautiful. I love your blog. I also love your "getting it back" blog. I havent had a child but I still struggle with weight loss and your sharing has inspired me. This is a blog community to inspire and support not defeat. Thank you for all your wonderful postings! Keep it up!
ReplyDeleteholy billion comments! i know i'm a little late to the party, but i *love* your blog holly! i love all of the things you blog about, especially about being a mom. having simon and paisley so close in age is one of my favorite things. i feel like we can relate a lot. :) anyway, just keep blogging whatever you feel like. it seems like there are a bunch of people who will be around, no matter what, to read what you have to say. :) and the rude commenter needs to go back to her mom's house and learn some proper manners. or maybe have the super nanny come teach her how to behave.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE YOU HOLLY!
<3katie
they look so cute together!
ReplyDeleteI love you Holly!
ReplyDeleteI love what you write and share on here - it's amazing, insightful and beautiful ...especially to those like myself, who long to have a family but have not found Mr Right yet!
Your imagery is gorgeous and represents the most precious moments of a newborns' life, whilst at the same time giving us all a sneak-peak into your world.
We are all human = therefore we are all curious.
Keep doing what you are doing, amazing lady!
Much love to you and your little family xx
Sophie
That Vintage.
Yeah. Having a baby and technically being a mother is one thing, being a good mother is another. I work with children every day who suffer emotionally and physically from lack of a present, caring mother. THAT is a true world crisis, children growing up without empathy from the woman who brought them into this world. Endless devotion and love, and pride in all their little accomplishments.
ReplyDeleteBeing a surgeon is admirable. It's interesting. It's necessary. But raising the people of the world to be loving, healthy individuals is equally essential.
I see the results of that not being important to some people, and so do you every time someone dies from a bullet wound in some surgeon's O.R.
I couldn't even finish reading past the second paragraph of that anonymous comment. It was by far the most sanctimonious, self righteous, negative (& completely false factually, by the way) comment I have ever read on someone’s blog. Holly, I hope you know we all think you are a beautiful inspiring person & mother, that person was c r a z y!
ReplyDeleteI love you Holly and I admire you and all your roles in life, you've accomplished so much!
ReplyDeleteI like seeing your progress and steps after pregnancy (and photos), I think it's brave! I'm rooting for you and it helps others know it doesn't just disappear when your babies born... you're doing great!!
It's nice to see all your friends sticking up for you; I hope this doesn't affect your enjoyment in blogging (or alter the way you do it).
Love you bud,
xo!! LA
My admiration for you runs deep...your love for your children is so evident. Posts like these make me eager for motherhood.
ReplyDeleteHolly, I find your blog beautiful and inspiring - and I agree with your post, being a SAHM is hard work (and you also have the salon!!) (and you have 2 kids, double the fun!!). I think you do a great job.
ReplyDeleteDis you know if SAHM's were paid for all the roles they encompass they would earn at least $500,000 a year?! (http://jobs.aol.com/articles/2010/05/09/mom-salary/). It's a tough job :)
annonymous poster: why are you so angry? That's your "stuff" that you need to deal with, no need to spew your pain here (for goodness sake, her blog is "Create Loves"!)
It's important to acknowledge that it is hard and stressful sometimes. Like today, my son pooed on the rug. NICE!
ReplyDeleteBut when they giggle or fall asleep in your arms...you just can't beat being a mum.
Love your blog. xx
Erin